I suppose it's a good time for Sally to be dying since my training is tapering off anyway. When I sit here and consider what I might blog about today, thoughts of her seem to push out anything else, including my training. But I think it's okay, because although it is a difficult time, I believe that the long term impact will be all positive.
But I have to explain the situation a little bit so you can understand the significance of what we're going through, and what I am personally learning. Without going into detail, Roo and I were the only people in her life that she trusted with her personal care, as well as her personal finances, both now, and after her death. Now picture a situation where her various "loved ones", hate each other, and now hate us as well. Unlike with each other I don't think their anger at us is personal, but rather because we are effectively in control.
Regardless this is the situation that our dear friend has left us, and we accept the challenge of implementing her wishes. Should be fun!
But what's my learning in all this?
I guess I would say first and foremost how grateful I am for my own family. I compare the current caustic environment at the hospital to when my parents died. I know with my Dads death at home, 11 of us were there at the very moment of his death. And then with Mom there were perhaps 8 of us sitting around singing "Be Not Afraid". Although there's not as many of them, I have complete confidence that my own children will act the same way when it's time to put me on my ice floe....
The other thing that really hit me the last couple of days was how much in sync my spouse and I are on the important things in life. I feel closer to her than I ever have, as we reinforce each others strengths, and compensate for each other weaknesses in this difficult time. We are a pretty strong team if I may say so myself.
Last but not least, the discussions I have witnessed over the last few days reminded me once more how material possessions bring misery more often than they bring joy. To want something so bad that you're prepared to sacrifice your own happiness for it, is the height of perversion!
And that's all I have to say about that....
As to my training it was a complete day off and I feel quite good. The first signs of renewed energy that I felt yesterday were even stronger today. I'm getting excited!
"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."---Buddha
Love
Peter
But I have to explain the situation a little bit so you can understand the significance of what we're going through, and what I am personally learning. Without going into detail, Roo and I were the only people in her life that she trusted with her personal care, as well as her personal finances, both now, and after her death. Now picture a situation where her various "loved ones", hate each other, and now hate us as well. Unlike with each other I don't think their anger at us is personal, but rather because we are effectively in control.
Regardless this is the situation that our dear friend has left us, and we accept the challenge of implementing her wishes. Should be fun!
But what's my learning in all this?
I guess I would say first and foremost how grateful I am for my own family. I compare the current caustic environment at the hospital to when my parents died. I know with my Dads death at home, 11 of us were there at the very moment of his death. And then with Mom there were perhaps 8 of us sitting around singing "Be Not Afraid". Although there's not as many of them, I have complete confidence that my own children will act the same way when it's time to put me on my ice floe....
The other thing that really hit me the last couple of days was how much in sync my spouse and I are on the important things in life. I feel closer to her than I ever have, as we reinforce each others strengths, and compensate for each other weaknesses in this difficult time. We are a pretty strong team if I may say so myself.
Last but not least, the discussions I have witnessed over the last few days reminded me once more how material possessions bring misery more often than they bring joy. To want something so bad that you're prepared to sacrifice your own happiness for it, is the height of perversion!
And that's all I have to say about that....
As to my training it was a complete day off and I feel quite good. The first signs of renewed energy that I felt yesterday were even stronger today. I'm getting excited!
"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."---Buddha
Love
Peter


